Inner work is a very important component of a twin flame relationship.
Continuing personal and spiritual growth are part of the twin flame journey. In order to achieve this both twins must dedicate themselves to continuing inner work. Without addressing issues within themselves, the problems could negatively impact the relationship. So what is inner work and how do you do it?
INNER WORK FOR TWIN FLAMES
1. Getting on a spiritual path.
As we mention in many articles here the twin flame reunion is the highest spiritual partnership. Many twin flames are already on a spiritual path when they encounter each other for the first time. But it’s important for them to continue their spiritual journey after coming into union.
They should continue their spiritual practice both individually and together as a couple. They can achieve this by connecting to a higher power, the universe, spirit, religion or whatever you choose to call it. Meditation is an excellent practice for inner work.
2. Become aware of your triggers.
These triggers will pinpoint areas that are in need of healing, learning, growth, and/or change. Since twin flames mirror one another, they may often trigger their partner without realizing it. These triggers are often emotional responses to deep-rooted issues that need healing.
By focusing on inner work, perhaps incorporating breath work, they can rise above these triggers and have a more harmonious relationship.
3. Be more honest and authentic.
One of the key components for each twin flame is to live more authentically. This will of course require honesty, especially with themselves. The authentic self is who someone truly is as a person. They say what they mean and mean what they say.
In living authentically, one must be held accountable and responsible for themselves, as well as their twin flame. This may require setting boundaries with others. If someone has never truly set boundaries before, they may need to incorporate some inner work to facilitate this process.
Some other characteristics of living authentically are kindness and compassion. It’s important to have these attributes toward others, but it’s equally important to be kind and compassionate to yourself.
4. Let go of the need to always be in control.
In a true twin flame relationship there’s no need to be in control of your twin or the relationship. Since the couple are on a spiritual journey together, making compromises should be easier for them other types of couples.
There is a process of surrender that naturally comes with the twin flame connection. It’s about surrendering to your twin as well as to the universe. Once you realize powers greater than yourselves are responsible for your connection, surrendering is easier.
If, however, someone finds it truly hard to release control and surrender, it’s important to identify the cause by doing some inner work. Perhaps it’s abandonment issues or other insecurities. If so, it’s best for the relationship to deal with these problems once and for all. Healing is part of the twin flame connection. Do the work and heal.
5. Become more aware of your inner dialogue.
If your inner voice is a negative one, or causes you to respond negatively, you need to silence that voice and find a more empowered one for yourself. Do you regularly engage in negative self-talk? Are you critical of your appearance or career?
For a lot of people, one negative thought often becomes many. If this is you, it’s time to stop! This is not healthy for your self-esteem and certainly doesn’t have a positive effect on your twin flame relationship.
Please consider doing some inner work to remove your negative critic. For instance when you feel a negative thought coming, learn to immediately flip it to a positive one. Yes, this will take practice, patience and effort.
Journaling is a great way to address your inner dialogue by writing down these negative thoughts. Then later, when you’re in a more positive frame of mind, review that list to gain greater understanding of these thoughts.
6. Allow yourself to feel worthy.
Just like everyone else on the planet you should allow yourself to feel worthy of what you desire and deserve. Do you have some childhood traumas that still need healing? Is there a lot of stress in your life? This, as well as many other situations, can create feelings of worthlessness.
You can do inner work to address feelings of worthlessness using positive affirmations. It’s also important to do this standing in front of a mirror. This may be difficult at first but again, you’re being called upon to be honest and authentic with your twin flame.
Stand in front of the mirror and say out loud to yourself things like: I am worthy. I deserve happiness. I am empowered.
Again this will take some practice and patience. But after some practice the feelings of unworthiness will start to exit your life. Journaling is also a great way to release these negative feelings.
7. Look for the patterns in your life and which ones you don’t want to repeat.
Here is where you discover lessons you still need to learn, otherwise the cycle would not continue. Look for the role you played in these patterns, so when faced with these lessons again, your reactions/actions will be different the next time.
Once you recognize these patterns it’s important to be accountable and responsible for them. Then, when you own it, you’ll be able to start making better decisions and choices. Journaling is excellent inner work to help you list and address these patterns so you don’t repeat the lessons.
8. Be mindful of what you have to be grateful for.
Everyday, find a few minutes, to think about what you’re grateful for, big or small. An attitude of gratitude is a wonderful way to shift any negative thoughts. When we appreciate what we have in our lives, we naturally shift to a more positive mind set.
A great practice is to take a few minutes everyday to acknowledge five things you’re grateful for. This can be anything. It can be your twin flame, your home, your family, your pets, anything. It’s been shown that doing this inner work for 30 days can shift your perception and even lift depression.
9. Let go of ego and allow your intuition to be your inner guide.
A twin flame relationship is a spiritual one and your intuitive powers will serve you well. Many twin flames naturally share empathy and telepathy with each other, even in while they’re dreaming. Meditation is the best practice to naturally open your intuitive powers. You can choose to meditate alone or with your twin.
When we live from our soul, we naturally remove ego. Actually ego shouldn’t be part of any twin flame relationship, as you’re equals. Expanding your intuition through daily practice is wonderful inner work. As you work on yourself through intuition and meditation, you will probably also experience the release of some of these limiting behaviors we address here.
10. Look for new ways of dealing with your fears.
Don’t let worry consume you, as it’s not productive in any way at all. Face those fears, challenge yourself and you will see real growth. These fears will no longer have to power to hold you back.
Many times facing fears head-on is all the inner work we need to do to release them. Of course it may take some courage on your part, but it will be worth it when you kick fear to the curb.
What are you afraid of? Do you have unresolved fears from younger years? Does fear keep your paralyzed from moving forward into a new career? Once you isolate these fears, by being authentic with yourself, you can then begin to apply inner work to release them.
This could also be a great exercise to work on with your twin flame. Remember your twin flame is your mirror, so communicating with them about these issues can bring healing.
11. End your habitual desire to people please.
Stop going overboard and stop making everyone else’s happiness more important than your own. Your happiness matters too.
Here it’s important to understand why you need to please others. The bottom line is you don’t have to please everyone. For example, if a friend ends your friendship because you don’t jump when they say jump, they weren’t truly a friend.
Do you have a hard time saying no? It’s okay to say no. There should be no guilt in saying no. Sometimes you have to say no because you have stuff going on in your own life.
It’s time to address your own happiness. Doing some inner work to address your need to please others can help you learn to say no without guilt. This of course can be tied feeling worthy.
12. Take the time to notice how certain people, and their words and behaviors, make you feel.
You may need to distance yourself, or cut yourself off, from specific people in your life who are bringing you down. Just because you’re on a spiritual path doesn’t mean you have to maintain friendships with those who make you feel uncomfortable.
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s okay to distance yourself from them. This goes hand in hand with being honest and authentic. Does one of your friends constantly come at you with negative comments about you? Do they criticize you and make you feel unworthy?
If so, it may be time to release them. Yes, it may be difficult. But many times, as we grow and expand our spiritual awareness, we find it necessary to let people go. Perhaps we outgrow them, especially if they’re unwilling to grow and evolve themselves.
We’re not saying that you don’t love or care for them anymore, you can still love them, just from a distance.
13. Stop blaming yourself.
It’s important to hold yourself accountable, of course. But it’s just as important to forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes, instead of repeating them. It’s important that you don’t become an inner critic and beat yourself up. Release it and let it go.
If you hurt someone, apologize, and be sincere about it. If you make choices or decisions for yourself that turn out badly, then forgive yourself. What did you learn? Will you do it again? If you learn from the mistake, and know you won’t do it again, let it go. Self-forgiveness can be difficult but it’s also necessary, especially when you’re on a spiritual journey.
Inner work is essential for twin flames both as individuals and as a couple. It’s important to continue your spiritual and personal growth in your relationship. Addressing these issues as they arise will do wonders for your connection and bring healing to some issues that may be long buried.
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