Soul mates and twin flames have become popular terms in today’s culture. But we must recognize there’s a difference between soul mates and twin flames. There are many misunderstandings of the true nature of these relationships. And the Hollywood version of it is wrong. They are spiritual partnerships, geared toward personal and spiritual growth. But they’re not absurd ‘happily ever after’ romantic comedies that all have the same schtick and story-line.
We realize not everyone on the planet, or on the internet for that matter, will have the same theories or belief system about soul mate and twin flame relationships we do. These are what we consider the main differences between soul mates and twin flames.
1. Twin flames have gone through spiritual growth.
In twin flame relationships spiritual and personal growth has occurred as a result of being in one, or several, soul mate relationships before meeting a twin flame. This is not always the case. But twin flames need spiritual and emotional maturity to sustain the twin flame union. The biggest difference is the growth occurring in a twin flame relationship will be nurturing, supportive growth. But that of a soul mate can be difficult and at times personally traumatic. This is why we maintain twin flames meet later in life because they need these experiences first.
2. Many think they’re with their twin flame
Many people confuse a soul mate relationship for a twin flame one. But usually not the other way around. A twin flame relationship is NOT a soul mate relationship on steroids. Many soul mates run from each other during the course of the relationship. This is usually the most difficult part of the soul mate challenge. This should rarely happen between twin flames. As old souls they know they prepared for this reunion before they were born. This is why we believe the twin flame runner is a myth.
3. Twin flames come together for a higher purpose
Twin flames have a deep sense of coming together for a higher purpose. For them it’s not just having a deep connection with great sex. In a twin flame relationship, sex isn’t as important as it is to a soul mate connection. This doesn’t mean sex with a twin flame will be boring. It will be mind-blowing. But the divine purpose of the twin flame union goes beyond the physical plane. A soul mate relationship, although a spiritual partnership, has a lot more focus on the sexual component. The chemistry will be great, so enjoy yourselves! And we have to say this again. Just because you have great sexual chemistry with someone doesn’t mean they’re your soul mate.
4. Insecurities, fears and obsession
In a twin flame relationship there are no insecurities or fears. This relationship comes from a place of unconditional love, not fear. Even during times of separation there is faith in the twin flame connection. And an innate knowing that brings peace. During soul mate separation however, the soul mate who was left may feel abandoned. There’s a real fear their soul mate will never return. This fear can manifest into obsessive behaviors especially when they lack faith. It’s important to be able to address these fears and keep obsessive thoughts and behaviors in check.
5. Most soul mate relationships are painful
Soul mate relationships, while wonderful and deeply profound experiences, are almost never pain-free. The very nature of a soul mate relationship is personal and spiritual growth. Unfortunately most people can only learn through pain, especially emotional pain. To achieve growth you’ll probably have some difficult, and possibly traumatic, experiences with a soul mate partner. A twin flame relationship, however, is a union between old souls. They have already attained great insight and growth through relationship experiences in current as well as past life incarnations. Most twin flame relationships give positive life lesson experiences. This happens through merging of the twin flames while encountering spiritual growth through the twin flame union.
Almost every soul mate relationship will go through a period of separation. During this time of separation you’re being challenged to address your individual issues, whatever they may be. This must happen before the soul mate relationship has an opportunity to comeback together. Twin flames, on the other hand, usually address their own issues before meeting. And must now attain their growth through the relationship.
Many soul mate partners aren’t ready to embrace the intensity of the soul mate karma. So they decide to completely run away. They may have fears or insecurities that need to be addressed before they can accept the soul mate challenge. This leaves the other emotionally devastated. Many twin flames have an awareness the twin flame partnership is the spiritual union contained within their soul blueprint. And they’re usually ready to accept the twin flame destiny.
8. Acknowledging the connection
Most twin flames seem to recognize the divine union and are ready to honor that union. In a soul mate relationship, only one may actually believe in the soul mate connection. But the other refuses to acknowledge it and run for the hills. At this point you must consider if they truly are a soul mate or if you are projecting or romantic fantasies onto them. This is when you have to admit they are a false soulmate.
Once the twin flame union is in play, it’s almost impossible to end it or break it. You’ve been brought together by divine purpose and divine plan. You have done a lot of work, throughout your lifetimes, to support your twin flame destiny. A soul mate relationship, can be broken for many reasons. Many soul mate relationships are not intended to last a lifetime. We attract soul mate partners at the point in our lives where we require a specific lesson. Once that lesson is achieved, there’s no guarantee the soul mate will remain in our lives.
10. Divine Purpose
The true purpose of twin flame relationship is provide a gift of value to the world. Whatever that gift may be, is for the twin flames to create and deliver for the benefit of others who are living on the planet. The purpose of a soul mate relationship is to provide personal growth and life lessons for the individual soul mates.