Myth of the Twin Flame Runner

Many people believe a twin flame runner and twin flame chaser are components of every twin flame relationship.

But why would twin flames run? What are they running from? And why does someone need to chase their twin flame?


In order to fully comprehend this aspect of the twin flame relationship we must look at the nature of the twin flame connection. First and foremost, we must understand a twin flame relationship is the highest level of spiritual union.

The key word here is spiritual but it also implies deep karmic undertones. Twin flames usually must complete one or more soul mate life lessons successfully to be ready for the ultimate spiritual twin flame reunion.

A twin flame union is composed of two advanced souls. These souls, through their own personal growth and experiences, are ready to accept their twin flame mission. So the purpose of their relationship then is not Earth-centric. Yes, they can have great sex, but that’s not the nature of their union. Rather it’s to help and inspire people of the planet. The completion of their twin flame purpose is more important than their romantic relationship.

Before experiencing the twin flame union each individual undergoes some level of spiritual awakening. Since twins are more evolved does it make sense they would run from their soul’s purpose? After all this is the real reason they come to Earth to begin with?


This is something they agree to do before incarnating on the planet. So it’s an agreement with their guides, their twin flame, other souls and the Divine. So to believe in a twin flame runner, we must assume they’re running from their mission. This indicates they’re unable to fulfill their soul contract. 

We don’t believe this makes sense at all. So we can’t support the twin flame runner theory you find on other twin flame blogs. However, we fully believe that soul mates run from each other. Soul mates must endure obstacles and challenges that come in the form of life lessons and spiritual growth. And even though those lessons suck, they ultimately prepare the souls for the twin flame reunion. Even if a twin flame reunion for them doesn’t come for many lifetimes.

Twin Flame Runner and chaser
Myth of the Twin Flame Runner

If both soulmates and twin flames run, is there ever a relationship that could work out for anyone?

It seems highly unlikely.

Does the Universe want us to continually chase our tails, and our soul mate or twin flame, never achieving a sacred union? Do our guides want us to be miserable in one failed relationship after another? Again this does not make sense to us.

At some point a relationship has to work out. There has to be love, happiness and stability at some point in our lives, right?

When people call for a twin flame psychic reading and say my twin flame is the runner and I am the chaser, we’re being put in a very difficult position. This is just not our take on the twin flame journey. Simply put, we don’t believe twin flames run from each other.

We maintain they run toward each other and their twin flame mission.

We are not here to change your minds, nor can you change ours. It’s not about the relationship, it’s about your mission as a couple.

Please also read our companion article Myth of the Twin Flame Chaser.

Originally posted on 10/27/2017 @ 2:15 am

13 thoughts on “Myth of the Twin Flame Runner”

  1. Sometimes people being in separation is just two people being broken up. Why the new lingo and buzzwords people have made up (not you ladies, I mean the general public) to make their toxic relationships sound more spiritual? They seem to use the twin flame connection as an excuse to stay in their dysfunctional relationship and explain away the bad behaviors and their unwillingness to walk away. They speak in spiritual terms yet their behaviors are far from someone spiritually centered.

    • Yes you are very wise Karla because being in separation IS being broken up and yes they do use it as an excuse to stay in bad relationships. A truly spiritual person will walk away from anything that insults their soul.

  2. This makes sense but sometimes such a strong connection is just really frightening .speaking from experience. I adored him through and through and connected with him on such a deep level . I pushed him away as many times as I could. Another aspect of the journey is to teach you as well, I believe .. fear makes everyone act differently . I prefer people not speaking too matter of fact-ly about things, especially Spiritual things. I agree you should love and respect your special one, but when presented with someone who makes you face all your demons is tricky .
    But I’ll agree some are just unhealthily attached in toxic unrequited situations

    • twin flame relationships work better when both souls have gone through personal and spiritual growth so they are ready for the strong, intense connection

  3. I 100% agree with you and I’m so glad you wrote this. I feel like there is so much false information about TFs and people are holding on to regular relationships that have turned toxic because they want so badly to have a twin flame. Your twin will have the same undeniable desire to come together as you do! They would never ever hurt you intentionally .


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