Top 10 Twin Flame Misconceptions and Myths

There are many twin flame misconceptions and myths floating in the ether. As a matter of fact you can find a lot of it doing Google searches. For someone who does not truly understand the nature of the twin flame destiny it is easy to see how they can fail these misconceptions. We have taken the time to list what we believe to be the top 10 twin flame misconceptions and myths so folks have a greater understanding of this concept.

1. A twin flame connection is better than a soul mate connection. Not really. It is a different connection but they have similarities. Both twin flame and soul mate connections are karmic connections destined to teach us something about ourselves to enhance our lives. They are both intense soul level connections to another soul on the planet. We can have hundreds, if not thousands, of soul mate connections. There is only one twin flame connection. Furthermore, a twin flame connection is not, contrary to popular belief, a soul mate connection on steroids.

2. Not everyone will find their twin flame in this lifetime. While we are seeing a lot more twin flame reunions on the planet now due to the shift into higher consciousness, not everyone will find their twin flame. For most of us, our twin flame does not incarnate the same time we do. They stay on the other side very often serving us as a spiritual guide. We often provide the same service for them. It is important to remember that a twin flame connection is a highly spiritual connection. If you are both allowed to meet during this lifetime, it implies you are both spiritually advanced and ready to take on the spiritual significance of a twin flame relationship.

3. I can manifest my twin flame through meditation or healing ceremonies and rituals. Good luck with that. A twin flame connection is highly spiritual and  the meeting of twin flames is orchestrated by the Universe. If the twin flame meeting is going to happen for it will do so through divine timing and intervention. The only advice we can give to facilitate your twin flame entering your life is to focus on yourself, your spiritual journey and soul evolution. One thing is for certain, you twin flame will not materialize if you are depressed and feel you can’t function without a twin flame in your life.

4. Twin flame connections are the most passionate and have the best sex. You may have great sex with your current romantic partner, but we have news for you, it does not make them your twin flame. Who said a twin flame connection was all about sex anyway? Your journey with your twin flame is a sacred journey that involves giving your soul gift to the world. It is more about your respective spiritual growth than it is about boinking each other’s brains out. If you are more concerned with the sexual components of your relationship it is more likely it is a soul mate connection. All of this being said, twin flame sex is a sacred sex of the divine union, and will be the best you have every experienced. However it is a misconception to think it is a sign you are twin flames.

Twin Flame Misconceptions and Myths

Twin Flame Misconceptions and Myths

5. Twin flames always find each other. It would be a great fairy tale ‘happily ever after’ ending if this were true. As we have mentioned there are more twin flames incarnating together than ever before but not everyone, no matter how spiritually advanced, is truly ready for the twin flame reunion. Again this is largely dictated by fate and the powers of the Universe allowing the twin flame reunion. You may think you are ready for your twin flame to enter your life, but that right there is probably the reason it has not happened. Twin flames meet when they are not even thinking about it or focused on finding each other.

6. You can’t be complete without your twin flame. You know it was a very overly romanticized moment when Tom Cruise said to Renee Zellweger, “You complete me”, but it is not the nature of the twin flame connection. Many people feel incomplete without having a deeply connected romantic relationship. If you ever expect your twin flame to enter your life you need to find a way to be complete on your own. In order for the divine union of twin flames to work each person has to be whole. The best way to do this is through spiritual and personal growth. Your twin flame is not designed to complete you but to compliment your life. In other words, you don’t need them.

7. Once you have met your twin it is impossible to function without them. Well too bad for you because guess what? You need to find a way to function without your twin flame. As we discussed in Twin Flame Signs, it is highly probable you won’t be around each other all the time anyway. A twin flame relationship comes with an internal ‘knowing’ that even though apart the connection is very much alive. A true twin flame connection does not come with obsessing about them when they are not physically present in your life. If you find yourself obsessing about your romantic partner, there is a good indication it is not a twin flame connection, although it could very well be a soul mate. You have to remember a twin flame connection is a deeply spiritual connection, therefore there should not be a need to be around them all the time.

8. Twin flame runners run from the relationship. While some twin flames may not be quite ready for the intense connection of this type of relationship many twins are able to embrace it. When we encounter a twin flame runner you need to understand they are not running from you. They are running from themselves. A twin flame connection is a reflective one and we see parts of ourselves in our twin we must work on.  No one likes to look at themselves in the mirror and the twin flame connection highlights any shortcomings we must address. Not everyone is ready to do that as it brings up feelings of rejection and unworthiness. As humans these are two of our biggest fears. The spiritual purpose is to facilitate healing of these parts of ourselves through the twin flame connection.

9. A twin flame is one soul in two bodies. This actually comes down to personal spiritual belief, but we maintain that we are all individual souls. According to Greek mythology, specifically Plato’s “The Symposium”  humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves. But this is a philosophical text written to teach about the nature of love and not actual reality. So what does this mean exactly? We are all individual souls, but each of us have a certain polarity, either yin or yang. For example, if your soul imprint is yin energy, your twin flame would be yang energy. You are individual souls seeking the connection of the opposing energy. In reality, this type of union does produce the best relationships.

10. Twin flames, once in a relationship, stay together forever. Well in one sense you will stay together for eternity, from a spiritual perspective. But there is no guarantee you will stay together in physical relationship for the remainder of your lives. Some will, some won’t. It really depends what your soul blueprints look like for the rest of your lives. Your job, as part of this divine union, is to bring something of value to the world through creative collaboration. Perhaps when that undertaking is complete, you could each move on with your lives, or do more projects together that benefit others.


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  10 comments for “Top 10 Twin Flame Misconceptions and Myths

  1. April
    January 6, 2019 at 6:29 pm

    My twin flame passed away in Nov. 2018. I thought we were soulmates. But a medium told me we were definitely Twin Flames. I miss him so much and feel so torn with out him. Like my soul ripped in half. We were so good together. We stuck through hell and back. But he gotten very sick and eventually passed away. I am so distraught mentally and physically. I know he is with me in spirit. But wish he was here in life. How do I move on? So lost with out him in my physical life. Will we be reunited in the spiritual world?

  2. Evelyn
    June 28, 2017 at 7:22 pm

    Is it possible to know who your twin flame is without actually meeting them yet? Or do you have to meet them personally to ‘know’ that they are your twin soul?

  3. pinkcalyx
    January 8, 2017 at 1:57 am

    Thank you so much. This post is the most objective and un-embellished definition of twin flame. I met my twin last year, when I didn’t quite believe in the concept of twins. It seemed too new-agey and fantastical to me, and I just didn’t want to get attached to an idea. But he came into my life and we both ran. The running happened because like mirrors we reflected to each other who we are on the inside, and I truly did not want to see that in myself. It was too uncomfortable. We were also very psychically connected, could communicate via ESP, even connect sexually and energetically while in different countries. That said, that mirroring made us both uncomfortable and we broke up. I do not need him to be happy or complete, but that was a very spiritual, karmic relationship that set me off onto the correct course in my life. I am grateful for the experience. I can still feel him, reach out and touch him. Yes, we will always be “together” or in awareness of each other, but not attached in the traditional romantic sense. Twins do not necessarily need to marry, stay attached forever, in fact, the marriage contract isn’t necessary because the twins are always energetically connected anyway.
    I am uncomfortable with how media and “yoga mat philosophers” embellish the concept of twin flame. In my spiritual practice, I have met so many unhappy, attached, relationship addicted people who are sticking to impossible relationships because they firmly believe that the more difficult the relationship, the more indicative it is of a twin. No. Twins are always in understanding of each other. When there is no verbal communication, there is emotional, energetic, psychic communication. No talk is needed. Twins are always in awareness of each other, and any difficulties in the relationship are internal and spiritual. Twins, in fact, can let go of each other and often choose to pursue other relationships. Love your post. Thank you!

  4. kim lane
    December 27, 2016 at 2:35 am

    how and where can you find your twin flame?

    • Twin Flame Connection
      December 28, 2016 at 5:11 pm

      If you have one, they will come into your life. It’s not up to you to find them.

  5. Abhyu
    December 1, 2015 at 7:41 am

    I love my twin

  6. Donna
    October 23, 2015 at 2:37 pm

    Thank you for posting this. This is how I first saw twin flames defined in texts back in the early 80s, when I first read about twin flames and the recent “romantic twist” on the definition of twin flames, has had me greatly confused.

  7. Dana
    September 18, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    thank you so much. Clearing a lot of things for me .

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